I am going to come from a different angle that CW or GAG regarding your current situation.
You say that the relationship after 5 weeks dark has deteriorated. That H has become more cold.But you feel more strong and I think that comes through on your posts. Have you met the outcome you wanted for yourself?
If you have what about going dim but setting yourself some rules to protect yourself so as you don't get pulled into his game?
Keep the mystery going. The longer you are dark the more the gulf may increase between you. I think by coming to help in the garden is him trying to keep the door open. He is currently confused and his fantasy land will if not already be falling around his ears. He can see you are strong and moving forward. If he thinks you have moved ahead to quickly he may decide he has burnt his bridge.
Just a thought and another angle to look at. It is possible to stay detached and not pursue while being dim as opposed to dark.
Hope this hasn't put you in a terrible dilemma. Trust your instinct.
