CW - thank you - you are right he is blaming me, he is justifying and he wants to still be in control.

GAG - he is only in touch with one friend and he didn't tell his dad yet, his sister knows a listens to his drama, but she is a therapist so she can listen forever I guess. OW was cut off from her family and from most of her friends according to her H...they all disapprove. They only have each other pretty much...them against the whole world.

Like your X they all come up with "valid" reasons for what they are doing. I know that if it wasn't for the OW, H would still be here, all the reasons that he makes up for leaving are just justifications.

That's a good "lawyer" technique to get your point across. Thanks I'll start using that.

You know the old saying "You catch more flies with honey then with vinegar". It makes sense to be nice and friendly and gentle but firm as you point out. Once the infatuation with OW starts wearing off he will start comparing. Not that I'm trying to "catch him", but you get my point I hope.

As I mentioned in my post about C. H again brought up the issue on working around the house while I'm not here.

So couple of hours after the therapy session H was already testing if he got anywhere with me on that subject. I get an email that he would like to come tomorrow afternoon and work on the garden. I said that I have to leave about that time. He replied:

As far as I am concerned, you can leave as I work outside. I will not go inside. If you can’t believe this statement, after me reassuring you so many times... then I don’t know how will we continue functioning and even working together in business... I hope you’ll reconsider.

So he keeps pushing this...it's seems really childish. It seems to be very important to him, I think that he really wants me to trust him. I replied:

I would like to trust you...The gate will be open. I did cut the grass yesterday and shocked the pool as well.

He answered

I am glad, thank you.

I wonder how will he feel, slaving on a garden while nobody is home. Garden that is his and it's not and can't go into the house that is his but it's not. This is all too weird.....






Last edited by Mila; 06/10/10 07:05 AM.
M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO