Need help Busting Affair.

[newmama]

I think I can come up with something generic on my own, but will it be as effective as one that is very detailed, do you think?

Well how soon will you be meeting with the L? Could you take notes from your discussion with the L, turn those notes into "drafts/proposals" (ask your L if this is ok) and then type them up ready to go?

If he is just throwing around D talk, imagine how he would react if you calmly walk into the other room, come back with your papers (have a copy for HIM too- BAM! make sure you have typed DRAFT at the top of each page) and say "these are some drafts of what I was thinking we could do regarding visitation, finances, etc. Of course there will be more things that need to be flushed out in detail, but this is a start. Look them over and tell me what you think." My wording may not be the best, but it is just an idea of what you could say.

In my case, WH and I want to avoid lawyers and we did a lot of the preparation and footwork last year using the county's courthouse website. So we have a parenting plan and child support plan based on the info from the resources from that site. I put together a revised draft for April (because he told me again in March that he wanted to D) and then when he brought it up again in April, I had the papers ready. He was SHOCKED! And I am still waiting to hear or see any divorce action from him!