Need help Busting Affair.

[elvencat]

Your husband is afraid of divorce and wants YOU to cut the cord FOR HIM so HE can say YOU divorced HIM and play VICTIM to everyone... got it?

Your Husband is PLAYING YOU my dear...

This was the first thing I thought when I got first bomb last fall. I've always thought he'd rather have people think I was the one leaving him when it's nothing of the sort.

As for the Facebook log, yes my posts have been juvenile and I'm afraid I was acting through emotion, not proper thought. I do think a little good has come out of it though, because this evening I have spoken with more of my friends and family than I have in a very long time. It made me feel good to realize just how many people I have behind me at this very moment. I'm beginning to see that I can be determined in saving my marriage and yet realize that if the worst happens, I'll still be ok.

Also - this was a huge shock to me - but I think I may be able to become friends with OW's sister as a result of all this. It's too early to trust this as I can't quite trust that she isn't trying to get "into my camp" so to speak, but because I called out OW's name directly on my FB post, she wrote an angry message to me, which she followed up an hour later with an apology and an explanation that it was a knee-jerk reaction in trying to defend her sister. She actually told me she at first, early in H and OW's A, she fought with them all the time about what they were doing. She finally decided to keep her mouth shut so she wouldn't lose the support of her sister and H (as one of her good friends).

Now she tells me that since I was open enough to give her my side of the story, she hates feeling they are morally wrong, but feeling she can't do anything about it without it costing her too much. Then she made the comment she was going to change her FB password to make sure noone (read OW or their Mom) would "accidentally" find her messages to and from me.

What should I do about this unexpected response? Any ideas?