Need help Busting Affair.

[newmama]

elvencat, time to stop communicating with OW! If you are concerned with your rep, post something that shows you are taking the high road on your wall and then go NC with facebook! or at least stop looking at H's page!

OK here is something to think about--right now, your H sees you fighting for him (competing with OW) and clinging to the marriage.

When you moved out for one night awhile back, didn't he find a way to get you back into the house and share a bed with him and you were "intimate" even? He didn't want you to leave, elevencat!


Have there been other times since when you "walked away" or showed signs of being strong and rejecting him when he pulled you back in?

Ok I will let you answer the question but here is what I am thinking- you do a 180 of your current approach. You don't have to file for D but you do prepare like you would be divorced (visitation schedule, division of finances, division of property). I think I just told someone else to do this. Anyway, you just have that info ready to go. Then the next time he brings it up, you surprise him by being ready.

I don't know what your next step is- he is in the basement and you are moving out?

BTW I wish my WH would have tried to get me back into bed with him when he started with OW but he was rejecting me instead! So you have that example of how your H still desires you (and loves you--do not listen to his BS for a second) and doesn't want to lose you!!!