I don't know you nearly as well as THEY know you, of course, but I can see who you are. and THEY know who you are, too. and it will come back to them. and they'll come back to you.
Oh, damn, hm, just when my short cry was over, ya hadda go and hit me with that? You're sweet.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Yes divorce is the gift that keeps on giving. I can imagine that XW probably put them in a position to make a choice. However, it will come back to bite her in the arse, because the kids WILL resent her for it.
And they will turn to you for answers. This is where your growth will come in, because you won't put them in that position.
I don't know what these people are thinking. (((Hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Happy Sunday to you G-man. I don't have much advice for you today, other than to offer you a good day, sir, and you know in your heart that your kids (I call them kids, because the 'step' doesn't mean much. They are still your kids in your heart) will come back to you when they can, when they are hopefully out of there own fog, and probably not before.
I have never been much for 'faith', but that is changing lately. In this I would encourage you have faith, and give up your vision of an outcome to whatever is or what you think should happen...
As they say in AU, Cheers Mate!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
Good, hm. Loved the Natalie Merchant/Gerard Manley Hopkins video on the.alt. Workin' my tail off, chipping away at financial sitch. Tomorrow evening I have a meeting at Mediator's office with X re: a modification she wants to add to divorce settlement giving her a piece of the rent $ I'm getting from boarder. Can you say "chutzpah"?. I'm sure she'll come out getting something, though. Overall, feeling better and better every day. Not gonna let tomorrow ruin that (I hope )
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I just got done writing about the financial stuff on antler's thread. As I said there it's such a sore topic for me I don't even want to repeat talking about it. All I can say is karma's a bitch...hang in there G.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Good, hm. Loved the Natalie Merchant/Gerard Manley Hopkins video on the.alt. Workin' my tail off, chipping away at financial sitch. Tomorrow evening I have a meeting at Mediator's office with X re: a modification she wants to add to divorce settlement giving her a piece of the rent $ I'm getting from boarder. Can you say "chutzpah"?. I'm sure she'll come out getting something, though. Overall, feeling better and better every day. Not gonna let tomorrow ruin that (I hope )
glad you liked it; my cousin (whom I've never met!)who posted it originally is an English teacher in New York state.
so glad you're feeling better daily! there's a lot to be said for momentum.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
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