Sex with now strings attached. Yep that's what he's thinking of.
Look over all the posts here. Even the ones that made it all had one spouse totally checked out and didn't want to do anything. There's a certain amount of faith that you have to take on here.
When you talk, you just ... talk. Not about the R, but what you used to when you were first dating. It's hard at first to remember, but it gets easier. When my W and I first separated, it was hard as hell to even want to hear the sound of her voice. But what I learned was that I could go back to talking to her the way we used to. Since she wasn't physically here, I had to re-learn how to talk to her and carry a conversation. It was interesting to say the least.
If you think things are going to be affected financially or that he might take out money without your permission, protect your assets. It's not being anti-DBing or whatever. It's called being smart.
Yes it he wants to D, then he needs to do the steps to proceed.
From what it sounds like, since he mentioned that part about the dating and he perked up when he thought you meant dating other people, well maybe that's what he needs. Now I don't mean that he should date other people, but that maybe for a moment you should go back to how it is when you were first dating and got is attention.
Think of it like when Sandy underwent her transformation at the end of the movie Grease. She went from Innocent to Bad Ass with just a few changes. Same person, but it changed perceptions.
When you go out with him, try doing a full 180 in terms of your looks and look killer. After that, cut down on the communication with him for a bit. Act as if you've been busy, etc. Get him to start pursuing you for a bit. One step at a time.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
