When we spoke last Thurs - I mentioned that we should "date" (we both agreed he couldn't come home right away - too much tension with D12) to gain back some passion - we lost site of eachother. He thought I meant we should date other people and was a little put out by that....
Next day, Fri - tells me he has no desire to work on the relationship - knows he should and is trying to force himself but just can't - BUT!!! mentioned he liked the "dating" idea... I took the dating off the table cause he said he didn't want to work on the M. (I'm thinking he wants sex with no strings...but maybe I'm wrong)??? What are your thoughts?
He's a good man (not a pig/player) but I just don't trust that I'll end up being a lay whenever he's so inclined. Really not willing to do that....
So, your post talks about what I'm willing to do - anything and everything so he never feels like this again because of me - the problem is HE DOESN'T WANT TO WORK ON IT!!!!!! How do I get past that? He wanted to settle everything on Fri (including D talk) like he's just done...is this just talk or what?
I haven't heard from him all week about things he was going to do like move his insurance etc and I really don't want to ask. I just don't want to be paying for his stuff when I'm trying to make sure his money becomes his money without any access for me.
I have decided that if he wants a D - he can do the dirty work and start the process. I've always been the one who does everything and I figure if he wants to be a man again then I need to give that responsibility to him....right?
