Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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I'd agree with Virginia and Silly Old Bear--the study does NOT reflect the stories of my network of women friends, and appears sensationalized and skewed.

Although the iVillage survey did not publish the questions asked, nor the raw numbers (so one could evaluate how representative the cohorts are and how much sample adjustment was needed or warranted), the sample population was 2,000 married woman. This IS NOT an insignifcant number as surveys go, particularly since they did include the did not answer/declined in the study results. In addition, the narrative give more detail to the underlying statistics.

Let me also counter that counting on your own network of friends to determine whether the results are skewed or sensationalized has the same problem you attribute to me...it says more about your choice/preference of friends in your network than it says about the broader population of married women in the US.

What does it suggest to me? It suggests that leaping out of this marriage in the hopes that another would provide a more satisfying sexual experience is about a one-in-three chance. Not great odds (not random chance, to be sure), but not absolutely dismal. Just "depressing." Though, I could also say that nearly ANY sex life compared to my current status is an improvement.

No, like some (maybe all) of the 11 men that died on the DeepWater Horizon, who had to know they were stuck to the floor of the Gulf of Mexico because the pipes would not sever, the kill and choke lines would not detach, and the Lower Marine Riser Package which was attached to the BlowOut Preventer would not release, so that the rig could power up and motor away to safety from the Blow out in progress, I feel similarly "stuck."

Or do I just leap away and hope to survive. These are and have been the questions I've been asking myself.

The Captain