The push for divorce piece is debatable... If SHE is pushing for it No my advice is to calmly maintain that escaping a marriage does not solve anything...
There are many spouses who just want to run around like teenagers and cheat, but live off YOU in the family home while doing it... THAT is the case where I would push for a divorce... to SCARE THEM and wake them up
If your wife is pushing for a divorce no, I would NOT make an argument about it, but i would maintain that you want to save your marriage and destroying the famliy and the marriage is all OWNED by HER
And walk away before an argument starts
Pup said "tend to agree" on the notes you referenced.. I honeslty think NOW that this will be a hot topic and somewhat debated point...
My suggestion is to go to family therapy on your own to set an example while exposing to everyone... if everyone shames her and wont approve and you have torched her escape routes then she may very likley turn her attitude around
We need a few weeks to see how much damage the exposure has done... not just to OM but exposing to family and friends... I want to see how THEY respond to her NOW that they KNOW
