DG - I would live anywhere to have us all together again, but there is not one place on earth where he will do that, he has an excuse for everywhere!!! Well, he'd move back in here temporarily, but that's just a legal manouever. He'd have to pick somewhere we went jointly in together, and he won't do that.
SA - Thanks for the insights. I think you are right that he probably wouldn't have thought - and certainly wouldn't have voiced - many of these things pre-MLC. But he can't stop doing so now, there's like no filter on it at all!!
Mila, Thanks as always, so true. The thing about being a single Mom really irks me. When I say to him how tough it is to work full-time and raise the kids on my own (which is what he has me doing), he says FINE, he will take the kids no problem. It's never about US raising the kids. US?!! It's that I should realize how lucky I am to have them - or give them to him. He tells the kids I should not complain because he would take them. It's always him OR me, and it's hateful and hurtful.
Cat04, yes I know! I agree! The thing is it's like a game to him. It's infuriating. By not agreeing to go forward together, I must in the best intersts of myself and the children stay where I am now. I have a good job and the kids are settled. But then he see's that I have to stay here if he doesn't help me, if we don't go forward together, and then he says since I am here why can't he hang around and date me etc.
Snodderly, I love how you summarize things. But I can't stop asking why, why, why?! I have no conflict really with him, my life, my children, and he just keeps going at me! He's so angry and vindictive and I just don't understand it. I guess that's what we all feel here, though, the confusion?
