Expoooooooooooooooose Opti... Do it with dignity and purpose and you will look like a man and your wife will look like a child...
Try to give the exposure targets some guidance as to how you would like them to handle the situation and then leave it to them to choose... Don't just drop the bomb and run, that's not going to help you .. people need direction and guidance (education) in these circumstances.. no one is educated for this nonsense