I actually seem to be doing better and better as far as I myself am going. It is just when he involves the kids and grands in his 'fantasy" that I get upset. I had lunch today with my DIL and she tells my WH exactly how it is. He says "He doesn't want to say anything bad about me or have any of them hate me" She asked him "Why would we be upset with her, she hasn't done anything wrong?"
Since I went back to work, things have become easier and easier mentally for me. WH still has to pay all the household bills, so my entire check just goes into my account. I'm not sorry I gave him the ultimatum, he was treating me like s@@t. Better that than him sitting here getting drunk and angry at me all the time.
We've had absolutely No Contact since May 15th. I've had time to think through many things that I blamed on stress from my job, i.e., shingles, Bell's Palsy, all nerve disorders from stress. Now, I see a lot of it was really him. I still love him, but if he came back today, he wouldn't be able to walk my bottom line- Counseling for us and for his PTSD and alcohol abuse. Snodderly, you are absolutely right, he has a long, long way to go, and he has to go alone. I have to follow my own path.
