Thank you Coach for your reply. I'm pretty sure that I've read every post on this website looking for answers to something I just simply have no control over.

I'm giving this to the Universe to sort out. I will read and work on myself but I can no longer obsess about this. I need to focus on healing and on my kids - they deserve that much.

My biggest struggle is forgiving myself. Hindsight is 20/20 - I would have done so many things differently...but my H won't even consider working on this...

Coach - are you and Greek married? How did you two work it out; did one of you have no desire; and how long did it take for you to be back together?