No worries - though tempting, I would never send that photo to him. I've tried to take the high road during this whole debacle. I don't want him to have the slightest excuse, based on MY behavior, for what he's doing, so I've bent over backward to be dignified, polite, and kind. It probably helped that I was waiting for the post-nup to be drawn up and signed during the worst of the lying about the bimbo. He had been busted in SO MANY WAYS, but I kept my eye on the prize (my hard-earned retirement and savings) and just kept biting my tongue as he lied to me, over and over and over again, this man who I'd though was so honest and decent and ethical...
I have to think about what you said re: his telling my friend how he loves/misses me and thinks we'll get back together. I had planned to tell him that I'd heard some strange things that didn't make sense from her and that if he wanted to talk with me, he should talk with me directly, as otherwise outsiders' agendas can creep into our conlives and impressions of what is going on with one another.
This is all so hard to figure out.
Discovered OW1: 1/10, H refused to talk. H moved in w 1st OW: 3/10 H cheated on OW1: 12/10 H left OW1, moved in w OW2: 4/11 D: 9/11 Still miss H. Don't understand, H just left, never even talked w me.
