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Holy crap, you are soooo at the beginning of this journey.

Give yourself and your H and your M a break for goodness sake.

I remember being where you were, right after the bomb, and if I had been more rational, I could have written your posts.

You are expecting him to do something about the M and personal growth and he just dropped the bomb 2 months ago.

That was him doing something. And now, he is living his life. Which is also him doing something.

What are you doing?

You have looked at yourself, a tiny bit. You are trying to make changes, but you are as impatient with yourself as you are with your H.

Take a breath.

This did not happen over night and you will not fix it over night.

Bottom line, DB coach, Michelle, the boards, the man in the moon, nothing can guarantee that your M will be restored.

Making changes, should be about you. Not about your H or your M.

If they benefit your M in the end, that is a wonderful side effect.

Patience with yourself and your H is the first key.

You can do this.


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox