Even times like this when I know darn well that something was up. S was whining and hanging on her and she hates that
It really is the words and tone of voice that you use when trying to figure out what's wrong with your W. Let me give you a little secret, most women hate for the H to say "what's wrong" b/c it is usually implied that she's not acting right and he's agitated over it. Coach had a wonderful example of a response.
Your little boy is probably tired, hungry, needing her undivided attention....or all three. If mama starts yelling at the baby then I think that is when daddy needs to step in and tell her that she needs to go to the other room to "regroup". She needs to either deal with S4 but yelling at him is not what should be done. Since things are so stressed between the two of you, it might just be best to go pick your son up into your arms and find something for him and you to do together. Then when things are calmer, you can approach her about the issue of yelling.
BTW, I don't know if you realize it or not but the whining child clinging to his mother is a perfect picture of how some LBH's act when they are scared their WAW is going to leave them. And guess what? Remember how you said your W "hates" for S4 to do that? That is exactly how W's feel whenever the H us whiney and clingy. (Just thought I'd throw that in...free of charge.)
You asked if there were any books that teaches men how to act sexy. If you type in different key words, I'll bet you could find material on line. Of course any time you do that, you can get all kind of "stuff"....so be decerning. You can also go on Amazon books and type in enough words so it can offer suggested books. Even if you didn't buy them, the library might have it.
Usually it is something as simple as the way you smile at her or the way you look at her. I think the sexiest thing on earth is a wink. I don't know why, but it just is. Whenever I doll up special and I walk into the room where my H is....and he give a long soft whistle (like he knows that he's helpless ....lol) that works pretty well too.
I have to go for now. I'll get back with you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
