Completely Blindsided

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Wow, I know it's easy to get paranoid when going through this stuff, but a lot of what you just said hits home.

I would comment on anything that I found unfair/unjust/rude etc. I do feel that I'm perfectly happy person... most of the time... but I completely acknowledge that I've got a problem. I'm doing what I can to focus on the positives in life, and I'm seeking professional help. I don't want to be a negative person, I don't want to live and die on little things that other people do to each other.

How do you let someone know that their attitude is unhealthy? You tell them. You talk to them about it and let them know how you feel it is affecting you, themselves and your relationship... which I realise is easier said than done, especially given the circumstances. I can say that I have never been verbally abusive to my W. I've not insulted her or sworn at her, even when she told me what she'd done.
I've followed inline with her wishes, I've not told out joint friends that there is infidelity involved. Even when emailing I've been polite and friendly as much as possible.... so yeah, it is different in that regard.

Thanks for the URL, I'll check that out too.

You're right, you never know where the positive communication is going to lead to. ... Honestly, I know I'll be OK. I know that if she does go through with this and file, I'll survive, and even thrive, given how I've been since she told me. I'm not going to collapse. I'm not going to back slide. I have down times, but I a overall positive about myself and my future.

I just need to keep my patience in check. Most of me just wants to know one way or the other... but that's not how this is going to play out, so I've got to steel my resolve.

More driving tonight, and possibly some Salsa. Last night's Hip hop went well, and Tuesday's Ballroom was lovely. Actually, Monday's Contemporary was fantastic with the instructor loving me and telling me how far I've come, which was a boost. All in it's been a pretty darn good week so far! Gonna try and keep this up.