I know what you are saying PEI, and it is true. However, I decided to try on the dependent coat, because my H feels I am too confrontational. He used this 180 against me in so many ways, that I don't really want to go into since this is your thread. What I was trying to tell you, and you seem to have grasped it already (by your response to my little vent), is don't lose sight of who you are. I have not lost myself, except where our M is concerned. I cannot talk to my H about anything without him perceiving it as confrontational or he is bored. Very frustrating, and I am on the verge of walking away after 6 years of putting up with this garbage.
I think you are doing very well, so keep it up. Hopefully, things will work out sooner than most on this bb.
Can't stay and post but I'm wondering if you've read "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About it" ... I've found it quite helpful ...
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
