Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Well she called me today, and she went to the bank and took her name off the joint checking, so that is going to be my personal account.

She's got her own account now too. Our finances are separate

She also spoke to some more lawyers, and she wants to talk about filing. And when she was talking to me, she was so carefree, almost like she is excited and giddy about going through this. She really seems to REALLY want this.

Or is this part of the poker game, and she doesn't know ANYTHING about the hand I have dealt her. i.e. she still thinks her other men are going to be there while she goes through this. Plus she's got other friends to lean on who are telling her to "be strong and see this through".

Is it possible that she left the marriage a while ago, and didn't tell me because she didn't want to hurt me? And the affairs just happened because she was already done with it?

Or is she backwards rationalizing about all this? Like she felt unhappy, started the affairs, and they made her want to file and divorce.

She has said she's wanted a divorce for a while, but did not want to hurt me. I'm really hoping this is part of a script, and she just doesn't realize yet that EVERYONE knows and the other guys are completely done with her.

I'm starting to get nervous, upset, and worried that exposing the affairs didn't really make a difference, and she was going to do this no matter what; exposed, with or without someone to run to.