Finding out where you stand legally is very smart, especially if your H isn't helping out financially with your children. Just don't rush into any decisions at this time and don't give up hope and DB if you are not 100% ready. It's true that only you know when you are done fighting for the marriage.
I didn't know that he had to contribute like physically give me money.. I even said that he was home and not working and L said it doesn't matter. it's his responsibility no matter what.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Was just checking FB and noticed that he left his status as married but removed me as his wife..so now under info it reads that H is married and not H is married to timehealsall.
What an a$$hole.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
He started texting me that he wants half of his bills. Little sh1t. I told him we can sit down and discuss. He goes nuts saying I'm leaving him with all the debt and bills. I say. No that isn't true. But he just goes on
I get home and I ask of he wants to sit down, he says no and starts going off how I'm looking to screw him over. I remained calm and then he goes that he will settle it with his attorney. I tell him fine but that it won't be an easy as he thinks and it'll take time. Blah blah blah
then he starts texting me. Saying he is going to change his facebook status to show we are no longer together. I told him he was being juvenile and that our problems are bigger than FB He called me a fake. Claiming our marriage was fake. I used him. Used him for all he gave me. How he paid for everything. He did everything. That I'm selfish and only think of myself. (isn't an affair an act of selfishness?). Keeps going on and on
I should ignore him right? We also sold my truck to the dealer this Monday and now he is telling me that he is taking the spare car from me. (luckily I already had s backup for that and mn using my parents spare brand new car until I find something)
Help! Help.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Ohhhh... Time. Hugs Hugs. I'm so sorry he's giving you such a hard time. I fear if you try to defend yourself against it he'll just subject you to more abusive comments... what he's saying is so outrageous and harmful. I'm glad to hear you have a reliable car that isn't tied to him. How are your spirits holding up? I'm here at my desk for a bit yet post away if you need someone to listen. I wish I had something more concrete to offer you for advice...
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Is there any way you can keep from having to deal with him face-to-face? Or shut your cell phone off so you don't have to be subjected to his texts?? They must be awfully hurtful.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
Agreed...you need to walk away and shut down when he starts badgering you in this way. Turn off the cell phone, turn off FB, turn off your email, do whatever you have to. Shutting down gives him the clearest signal of all that you are not going to put up with this. Be the bigger person and walk away until heads are cooled. I've been through all that you are going through and it sucks, but if I could make it through, you can!
then he starts texting me. Saying he is going to change his facebook status to show we are no longer together.
I was divorced and remarried on facebook twice in less than two months..., and then was divorced on FB again about three weeks before my W moved out.
At one point, she called my mom, her mom, etc and told everybody we were in love and she couldn't get divorced, and then 3 weeks later she was moving out.
What can you say?
As for the crap people say when they are doing this stuff..., well just try not to get sucked into it and return the favor.
It's hard when they are right in front of you and your heart is breaking all over again, but... you have to be strong. Let this make you stronger.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
