I think you're glossing over the fact that your W has some pretty big issues. I mean, I seriously doubt that she is holding a grudge about your non-proposal when she's, in fact, still M.
Was any of that addressed? Have you ever just straight up asked her why she hasn't D her H? I mean as it stands, she might still be seeing you as the OM.
You took the words out of my mouth!
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson