Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[MrBond]

DLS,

You don't cheat on your spouse just to get them to "snap out of it". It's not fair to everyone involved.

If you're going to date someone else, it's because you've gotten over your S or you do it for YOUR own gratification. You don't do it to control them to act a certain way.

When you cheat on someone regardless of the circumstance, it's a purely selfish thing to do. Selfish meaning that it is only for you and not for anyone else. And in doing so, you also accept the consequences of your actions.