They aren't literal "scripts". They are more like common behaviors that the WAS goes through. What you have to take away from all this is that it's not all about you. It's what the WAS believes in their head at the time.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
But id like to know what those patterns are. And id like to know what they are believing in their head. I want the type of knowledge puppy has. I'd like to understand more about this.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
The quickest way to do part of that.. (cuz you'll never get to Puppy's knowledge level anytime soon) is to read other threads from the beginning and get a feel for them.. Read the archives.. It helps paint the picture..
JMHO
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But id like to know what those patterns are. And id like to know what they are believing in their head. I want the type of knowledge puppy has. I'd like to understand more about this.
Read these DB forums -- esp. Infidelity and Newcomers -- and also the marriage builders' site. Read the best books about affairs, by Spring, Harley, Tupy and others.
Whatever your W is telling you is what's in her head. All the stuff about her saying that she hasn't loved you in a looong time, that she loves you but isn't 'in love' with you, etc. That's all been said to the LBS in one way or another.
You've done the exposure, tried to end the A, etc. Now the thing is to wade through all the BS that she accused you of and see what valid points she may have about the M if any.
There is no definite script where if you act one way, they will act a certain way. Not everyone who exposed were able to get back together. It depends on your own sitch and personalities.
What was something that your W had a gripe about you that was an actual valid point? Start doing something positive now. Or you may think that a positive action is to "move on". It's up to you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
They aren't literal "scripts". They are more like common behaviors that the WAS goes through. What you have to take away from all this is that it's not all about you. It's what the WAS believes in their head at the time.
And knowing this, can we divert or short circuit the WAS script's "flow charting" through backwards or "bad" behaviors or treatments. There has to be something we can do against the grain to shock them into a different set of scripts. Not verbal threats, but sometimes you may have to cheat on em to get em to act right, a big MOAB like this.
