Sorry SR, was having a lovely 2-hour dentist appt or would've responded sooner. I think your email was right on and you didn't rise to the bait of her frustrated text, i.e., you did it 100% right, IMO.
Just keep replying with business, no emotion. Like my H, if she has nothing to "work with" in terms of your reactions- if you stay very calm and don't even acknowledge when she's getting irritated, etc., eventually it won't be as interesting for her to bait you. That's the thought, anyway...
(((SR)))
btw, enjoy time with your DD and I agree w/whoever said (and I've been using this already with mine): "you'll have to ask Mommy why she didn't come, sweetheart". No negativity, no implication that she should've come, etc. She's old enough to tell her mom when she wants her to come and if she does and XW doesn't come, well, that says a lot. But you'll still be there for her.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
