Don't soften on her, even when she tries to warm up to you to get the mediation in her favour.. roll the dice and take it to court.. she clearly doens't want that...
Fight for your son and your marriage all the way...
When you hold her responsible I hope you are accknowleding mistakes YOU made PRE-AFFAIR that led to the marriage breakdown.
Make sure when you hold her accountable its for hte divorce, NOT for the marriage breakdown.. THAT you are BOTH accountable to.
The difference here is when the marriage broke DOWN you ROSE to the occastion and fought for your marriage while she RAN like a RABBIT for another man... tHAT is the difference
You both did damage to your marriage, but YOU didn't run like a coward when things got ugly, you stayed the course...
You DO need to take ownership of the mistakes you made LEADING to the affair, but do NOT tell her you are any way responsbile for her affair... SHE OWNS THAT and OM TOOK ADVANTAGE...focus on other man taking advantage of her when the marriage got into trobule... it gives her some breathing room
Well done so far TWolf, keep it up... Don't back down
