Spoke to a financial advisor - and we still have room to sell the house so thats what we're trying to do to walk away with credit not too badly damaged.
Yes - tough to deal with W and D11 moving away, but the more hopeless it looks, the more determined I am to overcome it. I'm looking at it like a challenge - and I'm not going to let it defeat me. I will be communicating with D11 every day until the day comes when I can relocate and be nearby. W may want to date to determine what she wants in life, and encouraging me to do same, but I have no interest in that right now. Focused on fixing as much financially, and with my relations with my kids right now. S24 continues to have issues with prescription drugs and now unemployed - and he is a huge factor in W and D11 going to FL.
I think of all this as step 8 in my Survivor list earlier in my thread - "See the beauty in the situation and in the world around you". As bad as this separation could be - this can be the break W needs to be away from S24 addiction horrors. S24 will be forced to face the world and responsibility once house is sold, if not sooner. D21 is OK and flexible and handling all this quite well. So - maybe we have to go thru this period to have a chance to potentially heal some of it to repair past damage - who knows?
I'm looking at it all to be an optimist and a new beginning, not a pessimist viewing it as an end. And whatever is placed in front me, I'll have to deal with....
Sandi was right early in my thread 6 months ago - the road will be tough - and can I be strong enough to tough it out. I don't know, but I'm not going to give up the fight.......
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
