Exposed finally,,limbo land

[Allen A]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mobile_phone_jammer

http://shop.ebay.com/i.html?_nkw=phone+jammer

I stand corrected, they are 40 bucks on ebay

[Optimust]

Well, I was really looking for some way to do an:

I feel,,,if you,,,,,then,,,

statements. ^^^^ that is probably the wrong format to, huh?

And the jammer would probably mess up alot more stuff than I want it too.

[Allen A]

What are you hoping to accomplish?

You tell her how you feel and that she will suddenly stop?

This is an addiction Opti.. It needs dealt with and you can't fight it if you can't think straight...

My wife started seeing a DJ behind my back and he was shovelling mp3's at her all day long... Cheezy thoughtless dance mustic to get her brain distracted... She played the crap ALL DAY LONG through our entire home... I STILL get nightmares and hear it long after he's been GONE...

She KNEW it hurt, she didn't CARE.. she was addicted and SO is YOUR WIFE...

Do NOT try to reason, negotiate, or beg an addict to stop, it does NOT WORK and just FRUSTRATES YOU and puts you in suicidal mode... do NOT let her get you there..

JAM the phone and protect your sanity

[newmama]

I feel that the constant TM’ing, especially right in front of me and DD’s or in our presence is horribly disrespectful to all of us, it needs to stop. If you continue to flaunt this in our faces and continue disrespecting me and DD’s, I think you need to sleep in the basement or family room until you move out.

Hmm. Not bad...

I remember WH communicating with OW via texting before he moved out. I did tell him to his face "Please let me have one thing! Please give me SOME respect and do not text or call her in front of me!" He actually complied. What a gentleman! See why I want him back? (har har!)

[Allen A]

And you were pregnant at the time right nm? He just did it behind your back and you likely STILL KNEW he was doing it...

I loathe addictions...

[newmama]

but why not ask first and then if she doesn't comply, then get the jammer? It's a lot cheaper.

and there is NO WAY you two will be able to avoid conflict.

[newmama]

yes Allen- you see I was being sarcastic! I said this to him the week after n me giving him the ultimatum and telling him he needs to find an apartment if he won't stop communicating with her. He moved to the spare bedroom. BUt at least he wasn't doing it in my face like before.

[Allen A]

I say Jam the phone to protect your home.. asking an addict to show some sympathy is not going to ease your peace of mind Opti... KNOWING that your wife can't text or call him wtihin range of that jammer is giong to give YOU some safety... she may still call, but not anywhere near you.

[Optimust]

New developement,

She joined a group for her high school class on FB, and first 2 pictures there have them in a group, right next to each other, with arms around each other. Then there are 2 other photos from the event she went to (and stayed the night at) last Saturday, with the two of them, not hugging but together.

It is just screwing me into the ground, these are photo's our daughter has direct access to as her FB friend.

I was thinking of turning up the heat by exposing to her east coast brother(2000 miles away) who is super pro marriage, this will really piss her off. And also her boss, only in that they have been friends for 15 years and her boss and boss's husband are good friends of the family.

What are your thoughts?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I remember WH communicating with OW via texting before he moved out. I did tell him to his face "Please let me have one thing! Please give me SOME respect and do not text or call her in front of me!" He actually complied.

My wife did too.

Puppy