Dazed and Confused...Need Advice!!!!

[SMM23]

Find a men's soccer team to play on. This should be at the top of your list. It will help you in so many ways. When did your wife find you attractive?

It is the first thing I ddi this spring. When I told her that I found a team to play for she was surprised. In the Fall I played but I tore a hamstring and said I was gonig to stop playing. So when I registered for a new team she was happily surprised. But she only went to one game and that was only becasue I really wanted S4 to see my game and even then it was only for 1/2 of the game.

Try this next time. Stop everything, focus on her, make eye contact, have open body language, speak calmly and listen carefully to her.

"I can feel that something is bothering you. How can I help you right now?"

I kind of did that. I am not a yeller. I RARELY raise my voice. But I said when she came in that she looked like something was bothering her does she want to talk. She said nothing is wrong. I asked one more time and she said NOTHING in an annoyed voice, so I just told her that I was willing to listen if she wanted to talk and let it drop. She hates when I prod and keep asking. Even times like this when I know darn well that something was up. S was whining and hanging on her and she hates that, so it could have been that, but she would have told me. I was on IM all day at work and so was she and I did not contact her, I usually ask how her day is or something. I wanted to see if she would contact me, I got my answer. It could have been that because she would not talk about that if it bothered her to me. I have been trying to be less acting like nothing is wrong and she may not know how to deal with that. For instance, I had been giving her a hug when she comes in after work. I stopped doing that because she stopped coming to me when she got home and I am not going to chase (Pursue) her around the house. I know she is confused, but I am tired of the freaking games she plays. I am REALLY tired of her short fuse and yelling at our 4 year old for hanging on her. HES 4!!! All 4 year olds do that and especially him who is so attached to his mother. So I am just being repelled by her behavior right now, which I guess makes things easier on me so whatever.