Hey John! It's not so much the belief that this woman is the only one for me, I don't believe that. It's the thought of risking that kind of pain again with someone else (not that I really have to worry about that right now!). It does stuff to you and leaves an impact that often comes out when you least expect it. I often think I'm on top of it and can do anything and then weeks later I'm feeling insecure, scared and on top of nothing! I think what happens to Ian is that is comes over him even when he thinks it's taken care of. It's a tough healing process and I just wish our society didn't treat it like it's a brief flu that everybody gets and recovers from, it's a lot deeper and harder than that. And speaking of advice from father's, mine told me just after I got married "one day, son you're gonna roll over, look at that person beside you and say to yourself 'who the hell is this person, that's not the person I married' ' Thanks Dad!
