I feel like i need to contact WAW

[knightinneed]

Coach first off, thank you for stopping by my thread. I completely respect your advice and knowledge of DB'ng.

I know it was a crucial error, but ill be honest I seen something on her face book profile that was a big dagger to my heart. She posted a pic of her with her bosses son (possible OM) behind her not really a hugging pic or anything like that. Her mutual friend said that there is no relationship that they are just friends, but who knows as I cannot confirm nor deny this.

That is what prompted my foolishness as i lost control and also my marbles. She knows that would set me off, and maybe thats what she wanted?

I really would like for you to look at my sitch and maybe guide me a bit.

I am making all the changes I need to make for me, but the no contact is killing me, because I feel like it will allow her time to develop feelings for possible OM, unless it may just be her sending a message to me, because she is vindictive right now.

I also would like advice on stalling the D, because I do plan to go for full custody because at this time she has no car, a part time job and is living with her boss and could not afford to have my DD1 full time.

Regardless of reconciliation, I want my DD1 full time, and will be financially able to pursue it etc...

I am hoping that if I pursue full custody and tell her I want to work on the marriage, and not going to mediation she may come around, and well If she does not I will pursue it anyway.

Maybe the reality of her losing DD1 will wake her up, and also allow her to see my changes. I have literally changed so many things she did not like, and feel if she could just see them it would make a difference.

I have seen where some like Gucci or RobX would advise a taste of their own medicine ie dating myself, but I am just really confused on how to handle this.

Do I stall divorce, buy time? Do I even say I want to work on the marriage? Or do I just keep making my changes stay dark and let Lawyers handle it?

Please help with some suggestions.