I really think you need to limit the amount of time you spend with your W. The two of you need more than computer games, tv, shopping and playing with the dog. I think you both would do much better if you found healthier ways to spend time together as it might create a new dynamic, you would get to see new sides of each other and it would break up the routine the two of you seem stuck in. It also might help create some immediate positive memories and feelings. If your W is not up for it then so be it.. do it for you!
Our interactions have expanded beyond the aforementioned activities. These are the only activities W will engage in with me right now. Should I no longer do those things with her and have no interaction at all? When I have things planned to do and W chooses not to join me I still do them.
Yes I admit there was a span of time where I felt like I deserved the bitterness or because of our past. I am starting to break those patterns as you seen I have posted in the past few days. I just can't where it is wrong to assist my W when she asks. She is not demanding she is asking. Sitch or no sitch I would do it.
I do agree that she does speak to me in an unacceptable way a good percentage of time and that is something I am working on diminishing. SO what to do?
Help me develop a habit breaking plan/responses.
W - uses sounds to communicate ME - Sorry I cannot understand you
W - Asks me or tells me I have an attitude when I don't ME - ?
I have to think of the other common responses or comment shse gives me so I have a prepared response that is constructive and gets a point across.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
