Hi Ian, When I read your post I thought "right on", your list of struggles are super normal in my view! I often wonder whether I will be able to deal with the issues you are presenting here. Even though your M has been over for a while there's still so much there from it and it's that way for all of us. I have trouble imagining myself being able to trust any woman again, whether I will or not is another story. I myself was married for 17 years, she was the love of my life and I trusted her implicitly. Even when people suggested that maybe she was cheating I would say "she would never do that". I had one of the biggest anchors of my life torn away from me and I had done nothing to betray her trust. The one person who knew me best in the world said "you're not good enough"! Wow, how do you get over that sh!t. I'm not saying you can't but it's certainly an issue in my books. I wish I had some sloutions for you here but I don't. But I do know that when I read about yourself and others here on this BB struggling with things a few years after the D deed is done, I feel that maybe I'm not so abnormal when I struggle with these fears. Thanks for having the courage to come out and share these things with us all. Keep on posting, my friend !
