Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[mza8]

Hey Gr8, checking in.

I was going to reply to your post yesterday but was hesitant at first because I didn't want to steer you in any direction. However, it seems clear to me that you still want to save your M.

You asked if you made a mistake by throwing in the towel too early. Well, only you know that answer. The you mentioned that you joined the dating site so SHE would know you moved on instead of saying you joined the site for YOU. I think your W knows that by you joining that site thar you are just trying to "act" like you are moving on.

Just my 2 cents Gr8 but I think you still want to save your M. I know you say that you don't think about her and are moving on but I'm not so sure. I think you think about her a lot. I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't move on but if you still want to try then do so. Nothing wrong with GAL and not being in limbo but you can still try to work on saving your M at the same time. IMO I think you got tired of waiting and your patience ran thin. I'm sure everyone can understand that.

I know it's difficult but maybe you can continue being patient and giving this sitch more time. I think you're in a hurry to move on by going on the dating site, etc. to convince yourself that you are moving on when I'm not sure that's what you really want. I like newmama's idea to sit with ILs for part of the graduation and move around and take pics so you don't have to sit with them the entire time. IMO I probably would have gone to dinner with family for your D's graduation. I think it gives the impression you are putting your D5 above anything else. I can see it both ways but I think you should go to the dinner.