She is going to most definitely go to her trusted friends and give them HER VERSION of events, and going to tell them I have "went psycho". She is going to get support from them, and further strengthen her resolve that I am doing all this to get back at her and that I am really "crazy".
How should I handle that parts of it?
And how do I handle it when she goes BALLISTIC at me for doing this. What should I say and how should I respond? Im not sure of what to do when these 2 guys finally tell her that ive called them out. I have no idea what she will do.
FIRST QUESTION: you can't control that. For FAMILY, you should certainly pre-expose them, with the TRUTH, and then you STICK to the truth, unembellished, and remind them that you love her and do NOT want a divorce, but that you won't tolerate this kind of deceitful and disrespectful behavior in your marital home. You can't control what she tells HER friends (other than, if any one of them ever ASKS you, you can certainly look them in the eye and tell them the God's-honest-truth).
SECOND QUESTION:
You say "Everything I am doing, I am doing to fight for our marriage." or "I'm sorry you feel that way, but everything I'm doing, I'm doing to fight for our marriage and to protect myself." When there are kids involved you say " . . . our marriage and our family."
she will most certainly say some version of "Well, I was THINKING of getting back with you, but NOW YOU'VE BLOWN ANY CHANCE OF THAT, MISTER!!" . . . to which you say "I hear you. I'm sorry you feel that way. Everything that I have done, I've done to fight for our marriage, and -- where necessary -- to protect myself (our family)."
