Well, she has her freedom. She has moved into her mom's house and is not working. She is in a full state of rebellion. I am not calling her unless it pertains to the kids. She visited the other day with her "friend." I did not freak out, but thought it was very odd that she would pick a time when I would be home to show up with him. I felt as if I was being tested. He was very uncomfortable. I am almost done reading the book and am focusing on the 180 approach, although it is VERY hard.
I can tell by the way she is acting that she is very confused. She also feels very guilty. I keep slipping up a little, telling her I miss her and am waiting for her.
I am not sure what to do next. I don't want to take any actions that will push her farther away, but in her current state of mind I am worried about things like finances. She is going through $$ pretty quickly and we are not rich.
She keeps saying and doing things that make me feel as if there is a little hope.
Depression is a HUGE player in all of this. She misses her dad something fierce. I understand the need to be her friend now, and will work hard to let her know she can talk to me without pressuring her.
Right now I am trying hard to change the financial situation. She went from zero responsisbility to 100% in such a short time she cracked from the pressure and I want to try and care for the home without needing her to work. I feel that If I do this it will help change the dynamic of the situation in her mind.
