Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

About your ILs, do they know that YOU wanted to work on the marriage and did not want a divorce (initially)? If so, then I think it would be safe to sit next to them, but bring a camera so you can just be getting good pictures of D and then have an excuse to move around. OR you could just have your camera and start moving around to begin with, but wave hello to them

They both know That I have been working on saving the M. I have a great R with my FIL and told him about my M coach.
I heard through a friend that her mom was giving her the cold treatment b/c she thinks W gave up too soon.
So as for the ILs I would say they are on my side. But Blood is thicker, they will support their D decision.

aren't you the one who has been initiating all the divorce action since February (please forgive me if I missed something!!!)?

You started dating and made sure she knew,(and clicked on her friend's profile which probably reaaaaally bothered your W but it sounds like you explained why- hope she believed you!)

My W's lack of following through on things she says she's going to do really got to me. I wanted to be out of limbo. W hasn't forgiven me for my faults in the M and she said she doesn't know if she ever can.

I did initiate the meeting and the dating and other things to show her I am moving on and she is losing a great guy and father to her kids.
These were her words- Great guy and great father.

I do like the the idea about talking about the appraisal in person. It will give me an opportunity for the things you mentioned.

A while ago W did ask me(IN an Indirect way) that maybe after D5's graduation we all could go out to dinner.

At that time I told her I already had plans.