What has worked reasonably well for me is admitting that I am far from perfect as a husband, dad etc etc etc. I do the best I can and usually that is good enough. I understand what you and BBJ are saying regarding feeling lost. BUT if I am honest, for most of us, our WASs did us a favour (I really believe that). I think it is normal for us to grieve etc....but eventually you have to believe that Carrie does not define IAN....IAN defines Ian....from what i have read Ian has alot to offer.....don't sell yourself short...things will get better....allow yourself to be vulnerable again.....embrace the future and let the past slowly fade.
