Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

I said bye and she said "what did you say?" I repeated "bye" and she replied "bye" she sounded as if she was caught of guard by me not getting up. about 2 min later W calls for me and ask for me to come down. So I did and she needed help finding something. I helped her find it. W then gathered her things and was heading out the door saying and waving bye to he dog...

I don't like this dynamic you two have right now.

She calls--makes you get out of bed--to come down and help her look for something. She is treating you like a servant. Under normal circumstances, I would say this is fine, but I am not sure it wasn't just a way to see if she still has some control over you in this present situation.

And then you say she said goodbye to the dog, but I didn't read about her saying goodbye to you. Is that what happened?

Did she get you up out of bed to look for something and then say goodbye to the dog and not you? If so, next time stay in bed and pull the danged covers over your head and pretend you are asleep.

She did not force me out of bed. She did not demand I get up and help her out. She asked if I could help her and I did. Laying in bed pulling the covers over my head and ignoring her requests is the old me.

I cannot tell you how many times in the past I MADE my W get out of bed (or wherever) to do something for me that I was very well capable of doing myself and my W was always hesitant to ask for to do much because she was unsure what OIN she would get.

The same woman that asked you just 24 hours ago to provide her with health insurance couldn't be bothered to say goodbye to you but could say goodbye to the dog? I am sorry but this is unacceptable.

Didn't you say your W begins work at 4am? So she is asking you to help her at that hour and can't even muster a goodbye?

I really think you need to change your routine for you! I really am not sure how else you will break the dynamic the two of you have.

I know you work full time and you mentioned playing sports and working out but what about a new hobby just for you? Right now your W has NO CLUE what it would be like not to have you around 24/7. It seems the two of you spend LOTS of time together.

I think you really should maybe consider building a life for you outside of your W. It will give you time to recharge and it will also be good for you to interact with people to practice your new skills/tools.

Your W seems to live and die by the dog. I would start taking the dog out of the house... to the park, a dog park or on a hike. If she wants to come along great. If not that is fine as well but I am not so sure you and her spending so much time in the house is the best course of action right now.

No matter what, it's terribly rude to wake up an entire household in the middle of the night for no good reason other than not being able to find something. I understand she can't control her work schedule but some common courtesy is in order.

Has your W always acted so entitled? I found it odd in a previous post you stated your W said she was going to call her dad so he could call the attny.

She said bye in response to me saying it while I was still in bed.

Yes, right now the dog is an important part of each our lives. We both have become attached. I have read somewhere on this forum that other WAS did the same thing when their sitch was going on, talk to the dog and try to project happiness.

It is not like she asked me to help her find a hair clip or something foolish. In this instance it did warrant my assistance.

Has your W always acted so entitled? I found it odd in a previous post you stated your W said she was going to call her dad so he could call the attny.

Yes. She said she was going to call her father (who went through a divorce with her mother) and get the number for her his attny. This was just a little over a month ago.