Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[newmama]

Hi, gr8t! I was getting caught up on your sitch.

About your ILs, do they know that YOU wanted to work on the marriage and did not want a divorce (initially)? If so, then I think it would be safe to sit next to them, but bring a camera so you can just be getting good pictures of D and then have an excuse to move around. OR you could just have your camera and start moving around to begin with, but wave hello to them.

If they think you are the one driving this D, you probably don't want to interact much with them at all.Other than polite wave!


IMO, I think you should wait and see how your W reacts about the appraiser's information before you tell her you would like to work on the M.

Are you going to be reviewing the info from the appraiser in person? I would!

Then you can gauge her reaction, and if she does start crying or showing signs of being doubtful, you can get more information about why she is crying and then see if she really wants to do this.

Now this is tricky! And this is just my opinion based on these actions:
Granted, she was the one who walked away and hasn't been reaching out toward you, but

aren't you the one who has been initiating all the divorce action since February (please forgive me if I missed something!!!)?

You started dating and made sure she knew,(and clicked on her friend's profile which probably reaaaaally bothered your W but it sounds like you explained why- hope she believed you!)

and so because of these 2 things (talking about post marital agreement and then meeting about the post marital agreement, plus dating) it really does look like you have accepted this divorce and plan to move on.

So meet with her about the appraisal info in person, guage her reaction, and then go from there. And you know something- no matter how she reacts,

You could always say "I want you to know that I really did want to work on our marriage and was hoping we would be reuniting instead of divorcing." and see what she says, too!