No, you don't confront him, you EXPOSE to his WIFE.
She has just as much a right to know what's going on in her marriage as you do. Right now, in fact, she is the only one of the four affected who DOESN'T know what's going on!! She has the right to know, and to then be able to make her own decisions about how she wants to handle it.
Yes, your wife will be lived. Too bad. Consequences. As for it possibly making things worse, QS, your wife is having cybersex (and possibly in-person sex) with other men, says she doesn't love you, and wants a divorce. How can she possibly hurt you any further?
If you learn NOTHING ELSE from this whole ordeal, learn this:
In every situation, rather than operate from a basis of "How will she will react if I do thus-and-such? Will she be mad? How will her reaction make ME feel?", and replace it with
"What is The Right Thing to Do in this situation? What would God Himself have me do, if He were standing right in front of me?" . . . and then let any bluster from your wife, as a result, be just that: BLUSTER.
It's very liberating when you finally learn to do that, and realize . . . I'm still standing.
