Missher - Yes there is happiness on the other side. That I know. The sense of loss that I feel right now is just that a "feeling". This will pass that much I know. I have sooo realized that detachment is a gift. We talk about it from the perspective of a way to isolate ourselves from the crisis of our MLCer. For me, detachment is a gift to my wife. I have finally accepted that I cannot fix this, I play a role in this and boy did I not give her the opportunity to grow into the person that she needed to. If that person is someone that does not want me- well so be it. I will still love her and will understand.
GCG - You may not be at place where you feel like looking at my thread...but I really suggest that you do. Do a search and pull up some of the old ones. You will see a lot of you in those post. As I posted to you. Think about your W. consider how she feels... don't just say it - DO IT! It doesn't mean you lie down and allow yourself to be stepped on. No. I mean that you understand that she needs to do what she (and not with your permission) needs to do. Be a dad to the kids.
All - feeling a little better today. Still have my moments. Wrestling with the loss of control and the fear of the unknown - therein lies my next step. To face these, to deal with them and not allow the feelings to drive my actions.
God Bless
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
