The same woman that asked you just 24 hours ago to provide her with health insurance couldn't be bothered to say goodbye to you but could say goodbye to the dog? I am sorry but this is unacceptable.
Didn't you say your W begins work at 4am? So she is asking you to help her at that hour and can't even muster a goodbye?
I really think you need to change your routine for you! I really am not sure how else you will break the dynamic the two of you have.
I know you work full time and you mentioned playing sports and working out but what about a new hobby just for you? Right now your W has NO CLUE what it would be like not to have you around 24/7. It seems the two of you spend LOTS of time together.
I think you really should maybe consider building a life for you outside of your W. It will give you time to recharge and it will also be good for you to interact with people to practice your new skills/tools.
Your W seems to live and die by the dog. I would start taking the dog out of the house... to the park, a dog park or on a hike. If she wants to come along great. If not that is fine as well but I am not so sure you and her spending so much time in the house is the best course of action right now.
No matter what, it's terribly rude to wake up an entire household in the middle of the night for no good reason other than not being able to find something. I understand she can't control her work schedule but some common courtesy is in order.
Has your W always acted so entitled? I found it odd in a previous post you stated your W said she was going to call her dad so he could call the attny.
