NM..I am torn on having the kids call him...that would still be controlling...IF they ask to call him that is one thing but I suggest it then I would still be controlling H thru them and am afraid they would say "Mom told us to call you or Mom said...etc" especially D11...she talks to much like her mother! BUT, if H calls then I could use some of those scenario's you suggested definitely!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing