sounds to me like you may just be farther along than you give yourself credit for...

I can name tons of people who never deal with their own chitt..who never look inward as you have..

I've got a few things to address with you..

Trust-Rome was not built in a day Ian....once a man has been screwed over..I think it's hard for him to trust..whether it be business or personal relationships...it's something I struggle with but make myself do...life is full of hurts..guess what..you'll be hurt by something or someone else before you die..it's inevitable...

Communication--ahhh my favorite topic...shutting down..fight it all the time..it's in every man..simply because we get tired of women who bitch and nag...from our mom's, sisters, girlfriends, co-workers...they all do it...they are trained to do it..hell they pass it down from generation to generation...the only way to change anything from your point of view is to be a good listener...speak your mind..

Feelings--I think if you truly learn to trust..then you can give your heart

Doubt--stop being a dick...you doubt yourself because you are 1. getting older
2. cause you're being a dick

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I think that I have not come to grips completely with the exact amount of damage that losing Carrie caused me.



you may not have come to grips with it....but it's the best thing that ever happened to you...she is batchittcrazy..and for that there is no cure..