Something is really bothering me about AC's wife here. Is she really stable? I mean... if she's all full of self woe and mentally a wreck, (and FWIW I'm not entirely sure it's an "act" or that she is meaning to be manipulative)...
And THAT is the point I'm trying to convey. My (x)W acted in quite a bit of the same ways AC's is. All the years of keeping problems bottled up and within, and enduring it all just became too much and wasn't in control. She lost sight of her own contributions to the problems in the marriage, but was so miserable that in her mind, "it is all his fault" and in thinking so, set out to desotry me, yet at the same time, a little voice wouldn't stop reminding her that she did in fact still love me, but saw no other way and it drove her insane. And those are the words straight out of the mouth of a returned WAW.
On the mediation issue....
Both of our lawyers wanted us to go to mediation. My lawyer obviously knew the D is not what I wanted as well as hers sensed the same out of (x)W, hell I think I talked more in the hallway with her lawyer than mine. Here, if the mediator detects an underlying doubt, it is refered to the court and marriage counseling is in order (especially where un-emancipated children are involved). I folded my cards and threw the towel in a week before the mediation was set to begin at the request of our kids (second session would have involved them).
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
