Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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I saw she texted one of her friends last night:

"He went nuts..."

Ah, no I didn't. I was calm but stern. I confronted her and expressed my deepest hurt and disappointment.

"He went from being nice to such a terrible jerk"

No, I went from taking it laying down to refusing to put up with it anymore.

"He's NEVER going to change"

Incorrect. I have and am changing. Just not the way she'd hope that I would. Not the way in becoming a flatter doormat for her to walk on.

She says she always wanted to be put first. Well her behavior is absolutely destructive, and I showing care for her destructive behavior, regardless of whether she stays with me.

My only worry is that she says "The marriage was over well before I sexted and sex chatted. I had the chance to have actual sex, but I turned it down. I just didn't see it all as a big deal since I knew I was too far gone and that the Marriage couldn't be saved"

Are those statements part of any script? Like the I'm not in love...Need to be loved, or "My Marriage made me do it" types of affairs?

I am correct in assuming I shouldn't believe any of what I hear and only half of what I see.

That guy I messaged actually UNFRIENDED her on FB. She came to me last night and said:

"I know what you did. You logged onto my FB and unfriended someone. I changed all my passwords and sent a friend request, and him and I will be talking again soon."

Thing is, that guy messaged me back and told me he'd block her. She was telling him some INCORRECT things, and she DID NOT tell him I found the nude picture of HIM THAT HE SENT HER. He finally realized (I hope) that she is playing everyone. Or he thinks I would post that pic of him, and he is doing it out of fear. I would NEVER do that, but I think he may think that and he may create a false FB profile to talk to her.

Is this too part of any script?

Lastly, I have not messaged the FIRST guy. The married father who offered to have sex with her. (Instead she sent him a nude pic). I nailed her down about it last night and got the truth, and she said that this was exactly why she was divorcing me. Because I'd risk ruining a family OVER MY PAIN.

She didn't seem to care that she violated ANOTHER marriage, and was only concerned that no one else find out about it.

Should I maybe call him and let him know that I know, but that I will NEVER EVER tell anyone, and that he needs to take a long hard look at himself.

She and him will be in the same place for business NEXT WEEK, and I am thinking I need to throw a wrench in the works of that one.