this crisis has forced me to realize how detached I've actually become from myself!
That is something that tends to happen to women. We become wives and mothers and lose ourselves in the process.
I love being a mother, but I am learning I am a better mother now that I have an idea who I am outside of my child.
I believe that I am also a better partner to the man in my life, than I was to my H. I am definately a different type of partner. Much more of a participant in the relationship as an individual than I was.
Originally Posted By: IrishBlessings
It's embarrassing to think that I can't answer simple questions about what I want to do / or how much more can I take!
This is normal and you should not be embarrassed about it.
Irish, life is not about enduring, although some of us have life experiences that teach us that it is. It is about living and thriving and surviving all that comes our way.
Originally Posted By: IrishBlessings
I've got a lot of work to do!
We all come here with a lot of work to do. In fact, I think most of us realize that we have more work to do than we thought after we get here (cursing under her breath and being thankful at the same time).
What you will go through with this, is not for the faint of heart. It isn't easy. But it is well worth it.
For now, do your best to live with the uncertainty that is your M. If your H doens't want to tell people and you aren't ready, then just act as normally as possible when in situations where people don't know. This is your private business and until you are ready to share, it is better to keep it private.
Irish, be patient with yourself. Take some time to really understand MLC, depression, and sexual addictions. Read and learn about forgivness. Unconditional love. Explore your spiritual side as much as you can or want to. Renew your faith in God and yourself.
This didn't happen overnight and it won't resolve overnight.
No one, here or anywhere, can guarantee you what the outcome of your M will be.
You have some big issues, bigger than most I've seen, to deal with.
When the time comes, if you continue to do the work, if you take the challenge of this journey that has been laid before you, you will know the answers to your questions. You will know yourself like you never imagined you would.
It is a scary, amazing, wonderful, rollercoaster of a ride, my friend.
Know that we are here, to help you along the way. No one can make the decisions for you, and we can't spoon feed you the right and wrongs, but we can share our insight, our experiences, and do our best to help guide you to the ability to know in your own heart, exactly what YOUR answers are.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
