My former spouse was my first true love. Because of the sexual molestation in my youth, I had serious trust issues, especially with men. He broke through and wanted to know all of me. It was so wonderful, I didn't recognize or have the confidence to address the red flags.
It's always easier to look back and beat yourself to a pulp. It's more comfortable to look back at what was, that look forward. Staying in the dark is easier on the eyes than going into sunlight.
But at the end of the day, where would you rather be?
And kids? They are who they are whether you're a couple or not. Divorce brings challenges but also has its own odd consistency.
As a single parent, you choose how to address the matters, the consistency of boundaries and consequences are yours to own.
But I babble.
Ian.. you're an incredible guy as shown by your posts and giving to others.
Someone once told me, "Kathleen, you have great thoughts, aspirations.. now give them legs."
