Oh, Red... Re: your post at #2000560 - 05/11/10 12:08 PM
I've had the same thing happening with me. His male friends in town try to avoid me, then when they realize there's no way to, they say things like "I haven't seen him" or "Sorry to hear about you and [your husband], but at least there's no other woman." To the latter, I responded that the neighbors and taxi drivers had already told me before my husband finally admitted to the bimbo, to which said idiot (who was my friend first, for almost 15 years!) replied, "I told her not to give up her place in Bad Kohlgrub!" [Nearby town.] I don't know how or why *I* have become the villain of the piece to his friends, either, though I suspect my husband's guru, the misogynistic retired ski bum, has had something to do with it...
I'm so sorry to hear what's been going on. You offered me such kind and wise advice. I wish I could come up with something useful for you. Are there any jobs that you could get at the university that you would enjoy and might have a future for you? One of my girlfriends at Harvard not only got a great job there when her creep of a husband cheated on her with a grad student but then got to use her reduced rate fees to get a degree in a field she loved. She stayed married longer to the putz than she wanted to but at least got that out of their relationship. Are you still hoping to save the marriage? I know it's hard to give up hope when you remember the good years....
Discovered OW1: 1/10, H refused to talk. H moved in w 1st OW: 3/10 H cheated on OW1: 12/10 H left OW1, moved in w OW2: 4/11 D: 9/11 Still miss H. Don't understand, H just left, never even talked w me.
